little brother advice

[FlyingHigh1323]

I hope nobody thinks I'm a evil person even though I probably am ok here it goes I'm the older brother and my little brother is 10 years old. Ok my little brother comes to me and asks me questions such as do I drink, have I ever been in a fight, do I do drugs, do I drink alcohol, have I ever had sex etc. and it doesn't help that his friends have similar older siblings how do drugs or are in gangs. So one day my brother asks me about porn do I have any have, I ever seen it, whats it like, can I show him some, Because one of his friends saw it because of his older brother. My answer was no, he walked away with a look of some what disappointed face, so I wonder if maybe I should show him some better by me then by some friends older brother right. Well I didn't show him but a couple days later he asks about sex how do you do it? what does "dick" mean? What does it mean to say "suck my dick" again because one of his friends heard his older brother say it. So again I thought should I tell him, If I tell him maybe he will look up to me, I can be the super cool older brother that he can show to his friends at school. So I told him and the next day after school he told me he unleashed a whole you meaning to words and meanings to his friends, and everyone thought I was the coolest older brother, my brother looked happy and almost proud of me, endless to say I felt good about my self.

By now I'm telling my brother everything I know abut sex drugs,alcohol you name it he knew it. So one day he asks my if I have any beer because his friend tried beer the other day thanks to their older brother, maybe I felt like I was in competition with this same friends older brother so I told my brother that I had a stashed bottle of vodka which was way stronger then the beer his friend had, would he like to try some, well he instantly agreed so that night he tried his first mini shot of vodka. He goes to school the next day bragging to his friend, and I felt this big feeling of guilt look what my sweet little brother is turning into a mini gangster, he knows more about me then I did at his age, And yet when I was his age I would want to be just like him with the cool older brother.

Which brings me to today, my brother has lately been asking about drugs, weed in particular because of 420 and the help of a friends older brother. And seeing as how I'm a member here at weed guru I do indeed smoke the dope. Well I hesitated to tell him because of my guilt trips, I eventually did tell him about weed I even told him that one of my friends that visits my house smokes weed and that he told me to hang on to his pipe and stash, I showed him my "friends" pipe and stash felling proud of myself. Well now he is asking me if I can let him try weed. In a way I want to so I can be the cool older brother, but I really exposing my little brother to weed at such a young age, I've already made the mistake of letting him try alcohol, and I've seen some topics on "how old should I try weed" which pretty much agree 10 years old is way to young. Now I'm pretty much fighting with myself to do the right thing or to be the cool older brother. This is my problem How dare I show this little boys the bad side of life the drugs,gangs,violence of the world, but then at his age this is all the stuff you want to know, I could be doing him the biggest favor I know I wish I would have had and older brother to tell me. Or I could be destroying him, exposing him so soon, overflowing his brain with bad.

Well a few minutes ago I had the biggest test. I was outside lighting up as I usually do, and my brother goes outside. I quickly hide with a pipe in my hand and lighter in the other. I wait a few minutes and he's not going inside, and worst my dog comes out and start sniffing to the weed in my direction, Know my brother is looking in my direction so I put the pipe down and come out, I tell him I was hiding from him as a joke and that I was only out for fresh air, theirs any awkward silence and I know he can smell the weed, we are outside for about 15 min. making small talk and the whole time I', debating whether or not to smoke him out right then n there well I decide not to, but I'm still fighting my self about it. I know and do a lot of things far worse that weed and I think it's only a matter of time before he asks about them. So any advice would greatly be appreciated if people find this wrong and now have me keep your opinions to yourself I'm not here to be judged, and in my defense I'm only trying to be the best older brother I can be. This is a sensitive subject I would never purposely do anything to harm my little brother.

[WeedGuru_Flow]

To be honest, and completely honest that is.

You are a dumbass.

that kid's 10 years old, It shouldn't know jack shit about alcohol,sucking dicks,let alone drugs man, he's supposed to be out bugging girls with his friends, wondering if the moon is made out of cheese and stuff like that.

I never once said a thing to my brother about alcohol or drugs, until he turned 16 and just came to me one night during new years eve and went 'Nick I know you smoke pot, i'd like to try it' so that night I gave my little brother a toke. And it was all good 'cause he was 16 and asked me because at that age it's normal to turn your attention to things like drugs & alcohol.

No, I have zero respect for what you did, having a 10 year old drink Vodka? Are you nuts? Want to make him an alcoholic before his balls drop?

If you really wanted to be the best coolest older brother ever you'd have just told him that he's way too young for alcohol or drugs, or sex and tell him to come back when he's 16 and NOT to listen to his friends cause his friends are just as ignorant and misguided as he is.


Ten year olds are not supposed to know anything about the above .



Sorry if I come across all arrogant and shit, but I have a younger brother (3years, im 21 he's turning 18 soon) and Like I said, when he was 16 I smoked him out. Because that is the right age to start smoking, with the right people, and yes I was the right person to introduce him to the herb and he's been smoking ever since, at a normal rate and hasn't turned into some junk.

[SpRi7e]

I have to agree with Flow 100% and if I were you, I'd just say that if he even does drugs or alcohol or sex until he's 14-16 then he's fucking up his life by doing stuff too young and he doesn't understand enough about weed or alcohol or anything yet.

[Silence]

Let alone being immoral, any drug can seriously damage a child's brain in that stage of development. I could never imagine smoking my 12 year old brother up.

[FlyingHigh1323]

So when he asks about stuff like that what am I suposed to say, nothing? the vodka was just a sip from the bottle cap, and you'd be amazed at what 10 year old kids talk about these days, it's almost scary. I know I shouldn't be telling him about any of that stuff, but like I said thats all his friends talk about. I'm glad he asks me these questions like he trusts me so what am I supposed to do?

[SpRi7e]

tell him he's not old enough to be doing those things because he'll end up abusing them if he gets in to it so young and to forget about it for a few years. If it was me...I'd tell him if I'd ever find him doing it then I'd tell the parents.

[Ikku]

I wouldn't threaten him like that because my brother has put me through the whole "i'm gonna tell the parents" shit for three years, it's just fucking cruel. Just tell him he's not old enough. You might want to talk to the other older brothers and get them all to say the same thing to their brothers. That way you won't feel pressured to compete with them for coolest older brother, they'll all be telling the kids to hold off until they're older.

They're gonna be rebellious though, if they're interested in finding weed I'm pretty sure they're going to find it, they're going to smoke it, and they're going to feel like tough shit. If they do, act extremely disappointed with your brother, make sure he knows you were much older when you started and that you don't think it's cool for him to do it. The one thing he doesn't want is your disapproval.

[SpRi7e]

Well I mean, if you tell him it's not enough but I wouldn't actually tell the parents. I'd just do it to scare him but that's a good idea with actin really disappointed in them.

[FlyingHigh1323]

thanks for the advice, and when I did answer his questions the best way I could, and by not saying fuck or bitch every other word. I honestly never thought of telling him I would be disapointed in him if he ever did that. I don't know if he knows that I smoke but isn't it ironic that I tell him not to smoke, and then I go and smoke.

[President Beavis]

Man, being cool isn't what matters. It's doing the right thing.

[sickkid90]

ahhh thats just fucked up man..... but i guess you have a chance not to keep screwing him up... as long as his freind at school dosnt start getting him into shit, hes obviously already being attracted by this world or drugs, sex and alcohol.... and at 10 years old.... wow.....

don;t even think about just droppin him on his ass now and telling him to completely forget everything and shit cuz then hell go bazerk and think you suck, prolly tell on you, id work on getting him to get other intresest right now.... find out what he likes man, and get him hooked with that cuz a 10 year old shouldnt know anything about anything bad at that age.... what is that??? 5th grade, 4th grade...... i had my first wiff of weed smoke when i was like.... 12,.,..... and im glad that i didnt actually smoke it and just smelled it


all i can say is you messed up, but get over that, tell yourself you messed up, forget about it, and start working to make it better, and stop doing anything suspicious around him, and dont even mention sex, drugs, and alcohol



now that you've already exposed him, he wont take "your not old enough" as an answer from you, so either tell him you dont know, or its not cool to know, or it dosnt matter and change the subject